The Dreaded “Why” Phase: Turning Endless Questions into Learning Opportunities

By Nisha Baheti|3 - 4 mins read| June 19, 2024

Has your child finally arrived at the “dreaded” why phase? This is a period in your child’s development where “why” becomes their favorite word. It replaces breakfast, bedtime stories, and even the occasional nap. I know that these ‘whys’ can feel overwhelming at times, but trust me, this phase isn’t a nuisance. It’s a phase of curiosity, a beautiful expression of your child’s rapidly developing mind.

Imagine your kid staring up at the sky, their brow furrowed in concentration: “Why is the sky blue?” Now, this isn’t just a random question! It’s a sign that their brain is firing on all cylinders, absorbing information, and yearning to understand the fascinating world around them.

How can we turn these “whys” into learning opportunities

Let us go through some tips to navigate this symphony of curiosity and transform it into a beautiful learning experience for both you and your child:

  • Embrace the Inquiry: Instead of dreading the next “why,” you learn to celebrate it! This is your child’s way of engaging with the world. Therefore, it is important to respond with enthusiasm. Try: “Wow, that’s a great question! Let’s see if we can figure it out together.”
  • Turn Why into What: Sometimes, a simple shift in perspective can work wonders. Instead of answering the “why” directly, try asking “what” questions to spark further exploration. Make the “Why is the grass green?” into “What do you think makes the grass green?” This not only encourages your child to think critically but also allows them to come up with their own ideas.
  • Get Creative!: Don’t be afraid to get silly! Use songs, rhymes, or even act out a scenario to explain a concept. For example, if your child asks, “Why do birds fly?” you could sing a little song about birds having wings or pretend to be a bird soaring through the sky. I know it might seem silly, but these kinds of memories stay with your child forever. 
  • Books are Your Best Friends: Children’s books are a fantastic resource for answering “why” questions. Head to the library together and explore books on topics that pique your child’s interest. Reading together not only provides answers but also fosters a love of learning.
  • Hands-on Learning is King: Whenever possible, turn questions into hands-on experiences. If your child asks, “Why do plants need water?” plant some seeds together and observe how they grow. This active learning approach solidifies understanding and makes learning fun!
  • It’s Okay Not to Know All the Answers: Sometimes, you might not have the answer to your child’s question. That’s perfectly okay! Use this as an opportunity to learn together. “That’s a great question! Let’s look it up together in a book or online.” This teaches your child that learning is a lifelong journey and that asking questions is a valuable part of the process.


Remember, the “why” phase is just that—a phase. It’s a temporary period where your kid goes through intense curiosity which signifies a crucial stage in your child’s development. By embracing their questions, encouraging exploration, and turning “why” into “wow,” you’ll be nurturing a lifelong love of learning in your child and creating beautiful memories along the way. So next time your child bombards you with “whys,” take a deep breath, see it as a symphony of curiosity, and get ready to conduct a learning orchestra together!

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Nisha Baheti

Last Updated: Wed Jun 19 2024

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